ive been reading several blogs and noticed how they are all updated and i ve not been updating mine. i decided to kinda let out all my pent out swirly thoughts into words so here goes.
the church conflict:
one word. SCREWED. i feel as if the online "confrontation" has made things kinda complicated. firstly about all these "shooting" at a particuar peron- i think it was meant to be solving conflicts one at a time so in reality it SHOULD have been talking to one person at a time. BUT. what started out as questions at first turned to be several people cussing at one person. which was NOT WHAT IT WAS INTENDED TO BE. and i must say the face-to-face confrontation would not have been a good idea judging from the way the online one turned out. furthermore, the planned face to face confrontation didnt happen coz the person who planned it came late. frankly saying how " its me, im always late" isnt a really good excuse. not when youre the one who planned it and all. but i guess its YOU and you ARE always late so =.=. i guess the rest felt that you werent really being sincere coz you came late when they all turned up. and judging how the online confrontation turned out i dont think that haveing a face-to-face confrontation would have turned out well = so i guess that it was for the best, huh?
that aside, the blog tags. yes i did see the blog tags on her blog. after letting out all her frustrations on people who shot at her i guess it sort of invited unwanted posts at her blog. ayeee. i dont want to seem like a hypocrite or that im shooting at anybody in particular but i do have my points of view and i want to say it out instead of keeping it within and smiling all the way. well lets see: firstly, i dont think that coming to someones blog to tag, when you dont know that person well at all, and defend your friend whom she was talking about in her posts, isnt really. well. nice. i know that you want to defend your friend nd all and i know that you dont eant her to be put down but it still was a bit of a blow. i mean, you didnt hear both sides of the story. and like, for eg: i had a really huge arguement with one of my primary school friends,B, a few years back. and i was kinda at fault and all but not entirely my fault, you know? so then it was kinda upsetting coz she got my other really good friend, A, to text me stuff like " you are a ****ing asshole" and A even went as far to get her new friend in sec school to do the same. i was just like wth?? you dont even know the situation and you dont even know me at all!in the end i totally ignored them and we did try to bury the hatchet but now even if we see each other in town or stnng we wont even acknowledge each other's presence. bah. to cut the long story short. its just plain upsetting.
and ohkay. back to the tags. theres no wrong in defending your friends, but other people do have a say in their own private online journals. its their thoughts for gods sake. but then again it IS a public post. so people have the right to comment. its THEIR thoughts. but telling someone straight out with vulgarities aint nice. it just aint nice. and add in another party blowing off that person on the tagboard with vulgarities isnt that good either, regardless of whether the former did or did not cuss. EVEN if you are sticking up for your friend.im not telling you to leave your friend in the lurch either though. you cuss, you say that you have the freedom of speech. but bear in mind that everyone has the freedom to say and think what they like to as well. the world does NOT revolve round you. bottom line: cant we just be ethical and comment nicely?
that would solve a lot of wars.
hmm. i do have my own comments bout the other personal conflicts in between but i think its best to keep my mouth shut and not comment. its got nothing to do with me :X
"with conflicts come alliances". its quite heart-wrenching, actually. we used to be such a happy peppy bunch of church friends. i still remember the band concert. that rocked. now its like in church, we even sit separately. 3 at one end, 4 at the other end. its a good thing i didnt go coz i would have ended up sitting alone anyway. it would have been too awkward sitting with either group =. and another thing with the alliances. i guess seeing my really good friends all split up is sad enough. but then they start hanging out in their own alliances and become really tight and all. i guess part of me is glad that im not involved in the conflicts yet i am pretty annoyed the i get envious of them being so close. if you get my drift. its like you dont belong anymore. and they have so much fun and youre just plain left out. i dont know. maybe its all for the best.
the school conflict:
SIGH. yet again. its fine at being irritated at people you know. and complaining and bitching about the person to yourself in your mind and thinking how screwed up eveything is. just that ignoring the person completely isnt going to solve anything. it ll just make the person feel all lonely. its not nice to feel lonely. and i am a hypocrite at saying this: its not nice to shun someone. yep. after all, no one likes to be shunned, right?
ohkay. i think i shouldnt say anything more. it ll just add fuel to the fire.
but hey, if youre feeling upset or anything. IM HERE FOR YOU! :)
and im sorry if i upset or offended anyone in this post or anything. but like mentioned, -points to title- ITS JUST ME PASSING COMMENTS. i am not mentioning names nor shooting at a particular person or anything. please =.=.
i hope everything turns out all right in the end.
or maybe its just me being naive that it ll all be right again.
EESH.
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ning, tell me if this should be moved to be a friends-only post k?)